20 做一个更好的倾听者.doc

20. e a Better Listener
I strongly believe that it is rather important to be a good listener. And although I have e a better listener than I was ten years ago, I have to admit I'm still only an adequate1 listener.
Effective2 listening is more than simply avoiding the bad habit of interrupting others while they are speaking or finishing their sentences. It's being content to listen to the entire thought of someone rather than waiting impatiently for your chance to respond. In some ways, the way we fail to listen is symbolic of 3 the way we live. We often munication as if it were a race. It's almost like our goal is to have no time gaps4 between the conclusion of the sentence of the person we are speaking with and the beginning of our own. My wife and I were recently at a cafe having lunch, eavesdropping on5 the conversations around us. It seemed that no one was really listening to one another, instead they were taking turns6 not listening to one asked my wife if I still did the same thing. With a smile on her face she said,“ Only sometimes.”
Slowing down7 your responses and ing a better listener aids you in ing a more peaceful person. It takes pressure from you. If you think about it, you'll notice that it takes an enormous amount of energy and is very stressful to be sitting at the edge of your seat trying to guess what the person in front of you (or on the telep